My Mother's Death and How it Affected My Family

In April 2007 my mother became very ill. In theseveral hours which led us to believe that she
few days before Easter she had what seemedwas sleeping off whatever illness was taking over.
like a normal cold. When she showed no sign ofWe left a glass of fluids by the bed which
healing and actually got worse we knewseemed to emptying throughout the day so we
something was wrong. She was spending moreassumed that she was waking up to drink then
time in her room not wanting to get out of bed.falling back asleep. The whole day she was
She did not even want to go to bingo which hadsleeping she was breathing loudly almost snoring
been her routine to go several times a week forso we thought she was ok.
what was going on years.At about 7 am I was woken by my moms
When Easter came she gathered her strengthboyfriend who was saying to me "tati help me
and made it through a family gathering for morewake your mom up i cant do it" at that exact
than one event. We were hosting Easter dinner,moment I knew something was terribly wrong. I
my sons 2nd birthday and the baby shower forwent in the room and the bottom half of her
my unborn daughter all in one day. Towards thebody was purple, black and blue. She had brown
end of the day my Mother said goodbye andfluid leaking out of her nose and mouth. I called
went downstairs to her room to lay down. After911 and the tried to tell me how to preform CPR.
all the friends and family had left our house II could not understand in my state of panic and
went down to her room to see how she wasshock. I rolled my mother onto the ground from
doing. No improvement, her condition actuallythe bed and tried to resuscitate her but i had no
seemed to get worse. The next day she wasluck.
coughing up thick bright green mucus so I told herWhen the paramedics got to our house they tried
that I wanted to drive her to the emergencyto save her, with medication and i.v.'s and a
room. She agreed to go and on april 09, 2007 indefibrillator. They loaded her up in the ambulance
the late hours of the night about 10 pm we madeand took her to mercy san juan hospital. I
our way to Sutter Roseville emergency room.followed in my car.
By the time we got there my mom could barelyWhen I arrived they led me to a small room with
stand or walk on her own. she was shaking like a2 chairs and a small couch. Then told me to wait
wet dog.and someone would come see me soon and
The staff got us back into a room very quicklyexplain what was going on.. It seemed like forever
and the proceeded to take blood from an i.v. addin that small box of a room. Finally a nun came to
fluids to her system and take chest x-rays. Theysee me and she told me that my mother had
then discharged us very quickly. Told us that mypassed. I was so filled with horror and sadness. It
mom had bronchitus and gave her a prescriptionseemed like a bad dream I was going to wake
for some cough syrup and antibiotics.from soon. But no such luck. The Doctor came
We stopped by sonic burger and got some drinksout and told me that they tried to work on her
and tator tots. My mom kept saying to meand save her but the best they could estimate
"Thank you so much Tati if you hadn't taken mewas that she was already dead when the
to the hospital I could've died." She kept repeatingparamedics arrived. they said she had passed
this over and over saying how much shesometime in the night. Then they handed me a
appreciated me being there for her when shebag with all her jewelry she was wearing upon
needed me to be all these years. Our nextarrival.
destination was Walgreens pharmacy on MadisonI was then faced with the horrible job of calling
Ave and Dewey Dr. in Fair Oaks. When we goteveryone in my family and telling them that my
there and turned in the prescription they informedmom had died. When you have such a large
us that the antibiotics she was prescribed werefamily its a daunting task. I first called my best
not covered by her insurance so they would callfriend so she could come to the hospital and
the hospital and find a suitable replacementsupport me in the task. I then had to call my
medication for her so we walked aroundgrandmother and my sister, then my brother and
Walgreens until they got it cleared up. At this timethey all came to the hospital. We were allowed an
it was about 1 am. After all the confusion weamount of time to see her body and have much
were on our way home.needed closure. Believe me sometimes you just
The next day the weather was very nice andhave to see it to actually believe it.
sunny outside. My mom was feeling much betterI think one of the worse sickening things I had
so we decided to go out and do a little yard workthe responsibility of doing was telling my youngest
together.. well i did the work and my mom sat onbrothers and sister that mommy was not coming
the porch keeping me company. At this point Iback ever. Soon after I got home and had to deal
should not have been doing to much physicalwith that, many of my family members came by
activity considering i was about 6 1/2 monthsto support us,with food and telling good memories.
pregnant. I remember the sun was so bright andThere was a lot of crying just as I am as I sit
warm that i got a tan line between my shirt andhere and write this now. You never realize how
my pants on my back, which is unusual because Iclose your family is until a tragedy happens. That
never tan not even in a bathing suit out in the sunwas by far one of the worst days of my life. I
for 6 hours. After a few hours outside welook back on it now and the only comfort I have
decided it would be best to go inside so myis to know that she passed away peacefully in
mother could rest.her sleep without pain and suffering and she is in
The rest of the day was unlike any other but mya better place now guiding me and watching over
mother spent it in bed watching tv and visitingmy family.
with the family. I cooked dinner that night and putIt has been really hard without her and I miss her
the kids to bed for my mom since she was notevery day.. Sometimes I am angry with her for
feeling well enough to do it herself. I then visitedleaving me unprepared and it ripping my siblings
with my mom for a while telling her goodbye andaway from me but I know there is a greater
I love her before I made my way out for thepurpose for all of us and these things happen
night. That was the last time I spoke to her ever.exactly how they are supposed to.. you know in
I made it home very late that night and when Ithe greater scheme of things.
did my mother was asleep for the night whichI like to think that she is helping me every day do
was normal.the right thing and make the right decisions for
On April 11 the very next day, when I woke mymy family.
mother was still asleep. She stayed asleep for